Sombre thoughts on government’s decision to ban porn

Under the initiation of Home Ministry and NTA, ISPAN had decided to ban porn sites in Nepal. By now, ISPAN has banned 60 porn sites. The decision came into after keeping in mind the time youths spent on internet watching pornographic contents. Kailash Prasad Neuapne, legal advisor at NTA said the ban would divert youth’s attention to creative activities in the internet. ISPAN too has happily accepted the decision as a corporative social responsibility.

Some may call the action a way to curb individual freedom, while the other might well appreciate and say, “you did it right.” Nonetheless, the ban is a topic of debate and asks us to draw a distinction between its use and misuse. Although the ban seems to do good for the nation as a whole, that for individual is a matter of subjectivity.

If on one hand people could watch the contents to learn about sexual behaviors and for research, it, on the other hand could be used to “act as the way people do on videos.”

For sometime, Nepal has been experiencing increasing of rape cases. The victims are as young as sixth graders to young and adults. These incidents could be a result of watching pornography—where sexual behaviors are shown to the extreme—luring audience to “try it out.” Key information that shouldn’t go amiss in all of these incidents is that the victim usually is killed. From ordinary eyes, it seems clear that the abuser had some fits—an outline that surpasses the truth. However, upon keener look, one could likely find psychological reasons as actual motives that tempted the abusers towards their victims. These temptations could be the victim’s appearance—how does she look, her body structure, dress, or even some sexual frustration acted out.

The victim’s appearance is a matter of concern for the fact that those shown on pornography are “beautiful, bold, have perfect curves and wear short dresses”—something that easily lures a guy. Therefore, in each of the cases, it’s important to know how the victim looked and what she wore.

Since topic of sex is not digested in our society, it’s unlikely to be brought out. No matter how hard one tries to pour two liters of water in a liter’s bottle, after the bottle’s full, the remaining overflows—unless it is poured into another. The same seems with sexual frustration—a “condition in which a person is in a state of agitation, stress or anxiety due to prolonged sexual inactivity and/or sexual dissatisfaction that leads him or her to want more sex or better sex, or a state in which he or she is perpetually sexually aroused.”

Upon retrospection, it seems that the liberty to use and abuse certain content lies in an individual. One can take the horse to the river but you can’t make it drink—unless it’s thirst. The proverb magnificently supports both the sides. It in the end relies on the horse to decide—whether its thirst or not.